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Ash
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There is something I have to get off my chest Google. I am a lifetime small business owner and entrepreneur. I have a little club management application called FirmPOS that has been on the Internet since 1998. I have been diligent to keep the website full of original, relevant content. I have tried to stay up on SEO best practices. I have always used white-hat methods in hopes of keeping my site visible to people searching the Internet for Club Management Software.

Ash
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I am so grateful for this moment.

My pain level in my lower back has been at a constant 6 with my up/down pain in the 8-9 range for weeks. Every step is a struggle. Getting seated or getting up comes with an insane amount of pain. There's a point when your mind just adjusts to the new normal and you go on.

I awoke today with a new level of pain coming from just about every joint in my tired body. And my lower back was screaming.

Ash
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It is a crisp morning here in Phoenix as I take a moment to enjoy a warm cup of coffee and reflect a little. Not on the past but on the present. Right now. The here. The now.

Big breath in... big exhale. Ahhh. I notice the sun is gently warming the mountains as it rises. This is a brand new day. A brand new year. A big, beautiful new canvas that is untouched by anyone and ready for a new masterpiece. There are no wrong answers. No wrong colors. This canvas has no expectations or requirements. There are no judgements.

Ash
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If I were asked to leave a few final words that might be found by another seeker, I would say the number one thing I have learned in this life is to be generous.

Do it big. Do it to the best of your ability. Do it quietly.

Be generous.

Be generous with your time, talents, abilities, resources, energy, forgiveness, mercy, patience and money. Don't wait to be asked for help. Focus on becoming sensitive to the needs around you and then give what you are able. Do it quietly and as anonymously as humanly possible.

Ash
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Sometimes going back isn't an option. It just depends on what happened and the condition of the relationship. Is the bridge still intact?

You: What the hell are you rambling about Ash?

Me: I have a few things on my mind today. And in the words of the great wedding singer... I have a microphone and you don't. You know the rest... lol

I remember growing up, I knew a family where the father would preemptively become abusive while placing an order at the local McFast Food place. It was the very same spot that consistently served him cold, disgusting alternatives to the hot, fresh food they promised on the commercials.

Ash
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I'm on the go and need to get something with about 50gr of protein. I don't have a ton of time, so I decide a quick protein shake will get me through until my pre-workout meal.

I stop into a popular place in Scottsdale that serves up such beverages and order the leanest shake I can possibly get in this place while still ordering off the menu. I just removed the fruit and added one extra scoop of protein. The guy at the register looks at me and with a straight face says... that's $19.

Ash
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"I'm not trying to be an asshole here but..."

Here's a phrase that is invariably followed by someone being a huge asshole. At least you know there is a 100% chance of asshole like actions to follow.

In promise form, the spoken word has completely lost it's meaning for me. It is now simply a placeholder for possible action.

Ash
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Jesus is changing his name. I know this because a friend's sister's cousin knows his mom and she said he can't even enjoy a smoothie at N├ękter without people piling up to ask him for shit.

Come on. He's sick of everyone asking for everything. Lottery numbers, the good parking spot in the Walmart lot, discounts on chainsaws, a 'Greenie' with no apple, extra ginger.... and his absolute favorite; get me through this and I'll never do THAT again. lol

Ash
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Cleaning the house today and found a couple interesting photos of my late 20's. Some people wish they could go back... I NEVER wanna go back there.

At 27 years old, I was on my way out of this life. Almost 300 pounds, I worked 100 hour work weeks, ate terribly and never exercised. My eating was out of control and the 10 or more sodas per day weren't doing me any favors either.

Ash
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I'm just reading through the email this morning when an alert reminder pops up from the stupid Apple calendar app announcing "Father's Day is tomorrow".

My first thought is "how do I turn this reminder off"?

Then, the part of my brain that handles my paternal type repressions steps up to the microphone and starts up. The rest of me is saying... 'shut that fucking guy up over there'.

Ash
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As an introvert, this is something I have struggled with my entire life. Sitting on the sidelines evaluating the odds of failure, rejection or even someone hurting you. All the while, everyone else has "jumped in".

Win, lose or draw; those who have "jumped in" are experiencing something. I'm not saying evaluation isn't important. And I'm certainly not saying to "jump in" to anything that comes along. But there is a point where you must start participating on a level worthy of the opportunity or risk losing it.

Ash
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Man, just how many opportunities do you get to sit in the cockpit of a G5 with the pilot there to explain anything you want? The G5 was pretty cool but the pilot made the experience.

Here's what happened...

I was on site to do a last minute shoot for a friend when we encountered the most kind, patient and humble guy. He was the pilot and there to assist us in scouting the shoot so we could plan all the shots for the next day. His employer, (a super guy as well) had given us access to shoot on his Private G5 sitting on the tarmac at the Scottsdale airport.

Ash
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Let's just say it. People deserve your honesty... right?

Uh no.

Not everyone from the general public deserves to hear the truth to the question they just asked. Firstly, it may be none of their fucking business to impose such a query.

Before we go on here. Let me quickly preamble this rant with one statement. I'm all for being honest and open with the people who have earned that place in my life. To them, I'm an open book. I would expect the same in return.

Ash
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In my pre-coffee dash to the kitchen, I thought it might be fun to do my best Boomhauer while speaking to Alexa. Something like... "Yeah Alexa, I tell you what, Dang ol' put on dang kitchen lights. They do that man."

And wouldn't you know it... the kitchen lights came on.

So, I can't get Alexa to turn the kitchen lights on with my hands full of groceries but I can speak total gibberish on the way down the steps before I've had one ounce of coffee and she gets that.

Ash
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Here's a phrase that just doesn't get used enough. It immediately commands attention with mild punctuation. Now, that's powerful.

Stop arguing for fuck's sake.

Notice how I didn't have to add the exclamation point to the sentence? You heard me. Now take a moment to do us both a favor... say it with your best Irish accent. I'll wait for you.

Ash
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It's rant time again. This time.... it's sponsored by every fucking website that forces modal style messages over the free content I came to read.

So, fuck you Business Insider. The ad blocker is there to protect me from malicious advertisements fueled by greedy corporations like you that don't care if your ad network is above board or not.

Not only that, but who wants to see your advertisements anyway? I came to read the free content you provided for anyone to view. If you really want money for it, then force a subscription and see how far that takes you.

Ash
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I'm standing in the checkout line at a local grocery store and I'm noticing my groceries are piling up at the end of the belt. No one is bagging them and the clerk says to me... that will be $107.50 please.

$107.50

I want you to think about that number for a moment. How much do you work in a day to earn $107.50? Twenty-five minutes? Two hours? A full day? Regardless of what your answer is, that number is significant when you are earning it.

Ash
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I'm driving down the road tonight and pass a bar where the band is just finishing up. I hear the singer yell "We love you all!" and follows it up with "Goodnight!!"

I think to myself... what in the fuck does that really mean? I have a pretty long drive ahead of me... so I gave it some real thought.

I challenge you right now: define the word love. By today's standards, I couldn't come up with a valid definition. Neither can you.

Ash
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As the New Year quickly approaches, I just wanted to take a moment to share something I am focused on for 2018.

'I am enough' is a mantra that I have purposefully placed everywhere I regularly look. I know there is a popular group that made these three words famous but it's meaning is a little different for me.

We see so many things that are deliberately placed in front of us to make us feel the rush of connection and acceptance. It's in every commercial, tv show and movie. Engineered to trigger Dopamine, Serotonin and Oxytocin... right before the product placement OR to get you totally connected to the story. It's the difference between a good show and a great one... you know, the one you never miss.

Ash
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It happened. Today was a breaking point for me. I had a very upsetting afternoon and shit was coming in waves...rolling in. One thing after another, like I couldn't even catch a breath. The breaking point was when the box of 500 plastic forks fell from the top pantry shelf, all over me and onto the floor. It would have been funny to watch... like a Dick Van Dyke Sketch.